Difficult Behavior

Conflict Resolution (Disc 1)
"With the Working it Out Plan"
People often avoid confrontation, but avoiding confrontation will cause one to lose the opportunity to gain resolution, intimacy, justice, and security. Developed specifically for a class of children who had many conflict problems, Teacher feedback revealed that her students were able to take this process and utilize it on their own in the playground. This process anticipates problems and guides the conflict resolution process through affirmative processes. TRT: 37 min

Using Time Out (Disc 2)
"3 Problematic Theories & 1 That Works"
Time out is a tool with a bad reputation in some circles. This DVD explains how the tool and technique of time out is used poorly because of three problematic orientations or theories of time out itself. The one theory that works focuses on inclusion rather than exclusion. Teachers and other adults are guided to recognize their role in setting boundaries through time out to develop children who will be successful in families, classrooms, and later social situations. TRT: 34 min

Setting Boundaries (Disc 3)
"and Following Through”
The failure to set boundaries creates anxiety in children and leads to problematic behavior. However, many adults set overly rigid boundaries that fail to facilitate internalized values within children. This DVD will guide adults in setting boundaries that enable children to make their own choices more appropriately. The boundary of never allowing children to chose to be unreasonable will also be introduced and explained. TRT: 27 min

Punishment and Praise (Disc 4)
Punishment as a form of negative reinforcement and Praise as a form of positive reinforcement are examined for the accuracy of their underlying assumptions. Both disciplinary and behavior motivations are examined to guide adults in more appropriate and successful support of children. On this DVD both a sample Incentive Plan and a Behavior Plan are discussed and demonstrated. These two plans are available as documents on the DVD. TRT: 42 min

The 10 Most Important Skills (Disc 5)
"For a Child’s Achievement, Relationships, and Community"
This DVD introduces and discusses the ten most important skills teachers and parent can teach children. These skills promote individual achievement and success, as well as community involvement and relationships in the home, the classroom, the playground, and sports and later in marriage, work, and social situations. The following Skills are discussed: Problem Solving, Common Sense, Teamwork, Caring, Perseverance, Initiative, Responsibility, Effort,Motivation, and Confidence. TRT: 39 min



Recognizing Behavior Series

Determining Violence Potential (Disc 1)
"Assessment for Acting Out, Bullying, Aggression and Violence" Children’s aggressive or hurtful behavior can come from a variety of reasons and conditions beyond bullying. Understanding the underlying motivations and energy are crucial for handling and preventing such behaviors. There are often complex issues and circumstances that make an individual "act out" or become moody. The DVD helps parents, educators and other professionals differentiate danger potential and intervention processes for challenging, episodic/intense, high potential for aggression or violent behavior. TRT: 108 min

Assessment to Results (Disc 2)
"How to figure out the “Why” of Behavior to get to the “What to do” of Discipline" When children present challenging behavior, adults often want to respond immediately with a perfect intervention.However, interventions will not work if they do not address the underlying issue or motivation for the behavior. This DVD explains how careful assessment leads to conceptual clarity that eventually leads to the choice of appropriate and effective interventions. . TRT: 27min

Learning Diversity (Disc 3)
"Social & Emotional Issues and Disabilities in Children”
With a brief review of some learning disabilities, the DVD focuses on the potential social and emotional problems for children with learning differences. Learning differences and learning disabilities are presented as child diversity. Adults are guided to understand the cross-cultural challenges of multi-cultural perspective. Adult misunderstanding leads to frustration- from being unable to perform as expected and of failing to please parents and teachers. TRT: 47min

Missing Social Cues (Disc 4)
"13 Reasons Why Children Don‘t Get it"
When individuals miss the non-verbal social cues, they often suffer major negative consequences, including peer difficulties and academic problems. This DVD identifies 13 different reasons people may miss social cues, how it affects them and others, and gives guidance how to approach and handle the children’s challenges. Asperger’s Syndrome, ADD, trauma, stress and anxiety, cross-cultural issues, learning disabilities among other reasons are examined. TRT: 46 min

Transions and Change (Disc 5)
"Compensation Techniques for Transition Difficulty"
This DVD looks at how to help children accept change and make it productive. Children and adults are often disrupted by transitions and change in home and/or classroom (and work) situations. Resistance to inevitable change creates additional problems. Common issues that make accepting and adapting to change and transitions are discussed with compensating techniques suggested. Self-esteem, attachment stress, and temperamental issues are examined that affect transition difficulty. Seven steps to facilitate healthy transitions are introduced. TRT: 40 min



The Developmental Series

• Just Playing is Just Great
"Articulating Play's Importance"
This presentation focuses on helping adults understand how play is appropriate and essential to early childhood development, i.e. that the children are never "just playing"; they are in fact always developing and learning. Developmental theory is made real, understandable, and applicable to your interactions with your children. Implications for activities and appropriate learning materials, and for setting the learning environment are addressed. Also, seven interest area focuses for early childhood development are reviewed.

• Temperament and Personality Affecting Behavior and Relationships
"What's with this Kid?"
As adults understand temperament, many of the negative judgments and fears about their children's behavior can be set aside. Participants will learn nine temperamental traits and how to make temperamental evaluations of children and of themselves; how to use the temperamental evaluation to create constructive experiences with the child to minimize difficulties and to empower the adult with logical and effective strategies for interactions; how to diagnose learning styles of children; and how to diagnose adults’ teaching/parenting styles

• Basic Rules of Developmental Theories
"How Growth Happens”

There are many important developmental theories that help explain a child’s (or adult’s) growth and change processes; Piaget, Erikson, Freud, attachment theory, and family life cycle theory are but a few. Understanding these theories help adults to better support, stimulate, and facilitate children’s healthy growth and development, and the limitations and dangers in the process. This presentation presents the underlying rules of all developmental theories, and gives guidance on how to not only recognize how they manifest in children, but also how to best aid development.

• Developmental Theories II
"Practical Application for You...and Yours"
Outstanding theorists have presented highly informative developmental theories that are sometimes difficult for caring adults to translate into practical applications with the children they raise and teach. The trainer presents the theories of Erik Erikson (stages of social emotional growth from infancy through childhood through adulthood and becoming elderly), Selman (how children move from ego-centric perspectives to other perspectives), Kohlberg (moral development) in readily understandable conversational language, that can be readily applied to better evaluate, teach, and parent growing children.

• Developmentally Appropriate Practice and Growth
"Learning the Rules of Life"
Children are always trying to figure out how things work, and adults need to know how it works for them. That is, adults need to understand how children learn… how their “figurin’ out” process works and changes over time. This presentation follows children as they begin their initial “explorations” and “experimentations” with the world, through the early childhood era into adolescent and adult intellectual functioning. Pitfalls and misconceptions and the subsequent inappropriate well-intended interventions by adults to stimulate children’s learning, are contrasted with more effective strategies. Conceptual clarity allows adults to better stimulate cognitive development, rather than inadvertently confuse children.



Childhood Basics Series

• Building Self-Esteem in the Adult-Child System
w/ "The 90 Second-A-Day Self-Esteem Prescription Plan"

Self-esteem is the foundation of mental health for a child in childhood and for his or her entire life. The video helps adults who strive to build self-esteem in children but sometimes overlook their own issues that can either foster or harm that process. The Adult-Child System of Self-Esteem is discussed to facilitate a mutually empowering process between adults and children of emotional and psychological development. The video discusses the four components of self-esteem and how they guide the adult to build self-esteem in the child. The video uses the building of a house as a metaphor for teaching how the adults' forming of their own self-esteem and psychological health become the foundation to building the self-esteem of children. Seven fundamentals to creating the adult foundation in the adult-child system to build self-esteem are discussed in depth. Seven guidelines to building self-esteem in the child are then introduced with examples that viewers will find relevant and practical. In addition, the “90 Second-A-Day Self-Esteem Prescription Plan” for developing children is revealed.

• Victims, Abusers/Bullies & Survivors:
'The Dynamics of Self-Esteem in Aggression and/or Violence"

Not all children become victims although many children experience being bullied in childhood. This video reveals the dynamics that cause a bully, a victim, and a survivor to develop. The short-term and long-term costs of becoming either a victim or a bully are discussed. This presentation makes the connections between aggression, violence, and self-esteem as they develop in children. The developmental processes of the victim, abuser/bully, and survivor are discussed with reference to parenting styles, both positive and problematic. Guidance is given so that well intended parents do not make the critical mistakes that disempower their children and increase the likelihood of their children becoming victimized. Adults with challenging children are guided to avoid the dynamics that inadvertently promote abusive bullying behavior. Methods are presented to build self-esteem in children and to protect them from becoming abusers/bullies and/or victims. In addition, key understandings for protecting children from being victimized and the formation of anti-bullying programs in schools are discussed.

• Understanding Children...Understanding Behavior... for More Effective Discipline

This information and video was developed in response to parents, teachers, and social services professionals who needed a systematic process to understand the motivations behind children's behavior (and adult behavior as well!). Often adults make assumptions about what may be the reasons behind a child's behavior. Children may exhibit the same behavior for a multitude of reason. Or, several issues contribute to a particular behavior erupting. Although it is usually important to set boundaries regarding the behavior, adults also need to understand what causes the behavior. Unless the underlying issues are addressed, the behavior often reasserts itself or is not responsive to boundaries. This video uses two sets of questions to better understand and address the underlying emotional, psychological, and other issues that arise in children that affect behavior and potential discipline responses by adults. First, six simple questions are presented to gain insight and an overview of the emotional state of the child having behavior problems. Next, an orderly diagnostic process is presented, starting with looking at things from a developmental perspective to higher levels of concern. In many situations, when several of the issues may apply to the child, viewers can more systematically, practically, and successfully provide the discipline and support the child requires.

• Temper Tantrums!!
"The One Minute Temper Tantrum Solution!"

The frustration of poorly handling a Temper Tantrum is discussed along with examples of Temper Tantrum Igniters. Temper tantrums drive adults crazy! However, they are also attempts by children to handle their own needs and their place and power in the larger world. This video describes how to respectfully and effectively handle Temper Tantrums so that children are guided towards healthy ways to handle their needs; and the home, classroom, and other communities are not disrupted or disrespected. The FOUR types of Temper Tantrums along with the FOUR matching underlying issues and most importantly, the FOUR approaches and interventions to handle them with sensitivity and effectiveness are discussed. In addition, viewers will learn how to handle a Temper Tantrum when the adult is not sure which of the FOUR Temper Tantrums has erupted. Focus is on using participants awareness of their own emotional and psychological needs to create understanding of the child's emotional and psychological needs when he or she is in a tantrum state. This knowledge is then translated into practical technique that the participants can use to effectively prevent and resolve children's temper tantrums with the “One Minute Temper Tantrum Solution.” And a special bonus… how the evolution and practical experiences of childhood tantrums become adult tantrums!

• Childhood Stress

Adults often inadvertently disable a child from being able to be strong and successful in their lives, by trying to protect them from stress. This presentation discusses both the positive aspects of experiencing stress and how to appropriately support the development of the skills and strength necessary to avoid the negative aspects of stress. A simple pneumonic, SFFSSSSSSF helps adults facilitate the development of a powerful child who will be able to welcome, handle, and grow from life stresses. Adults will be better able to have children experience life stresses as life opportunities. Adults, who integrate these lessons will also be freed from the impossibility of totally protecting and sheltering children from the realities of the world.